THE REAL GIG: A MUSICIAN'S GUIDE TO THE UNIVERSE(04/29/2016)



CONFESSIONS OF A FORMER ANGRY YOUNG MAN 

  
I’m going out on a limb today. This column is going to sound like I’m a self-help coach or motivational speaker. I’ve started to write this story a few times in the past and realized I was rolling my eyes at myself…..so I stopped.  But it keeps coming to mind. So I’m going to exercise this demon once and for all at the risk of sounding like a douchebag. 

Less music than usual in today’s entry. But if you are a musician, it certainly relates. 

I grew up in Canton, Pennsylvania. A small town of about 2000 people in the North Central part of the state. My dad was a factory worker and my mom was a teacher’s aide. A basic working class family. Canton was a great place to grow up, but predictably there wasn’t much going on. It has one red light and it’s about an hour to the nearest McDonald’s or movie theater. In fact, a trip to McDonald’s and a movie was a pretty big deal to us as kids. 

I was a somewhat unique because I got into music in my teens, but I was also into sports. So I mixed pretty well with the musicians and the jocks. That came completely natural to me. Springsteen’s sax player Clarence Clemens was also a musician/athlete. So I figured, why not? 

When it came time to graduate from high school I had to decide where to go next. No one in my family had ever gone to college. And, there were no musicians in my immediate family either.  I was deep into jazz at the time and I was studying with a guy who was a Berklee College Of Music graduate. He helped me through the process and I did an audition for the school. I got accepted. I wanted to go. Bad. 

But at the same time I was doing well in sports too, mainly football. I started getting scholarship offers from various schools. Brown, University Of Pennsylvania, Bucknell University, etc, etc.  Lots of Division 1AA and Ivy League schools. 

After much consideration (and a handful of threats from my father…… something like “if you don’t do this I’m calling the Army recruiter”) I took a scholarship offer to play defensive end at Bucknell University. For the next four years, that is pretty much what I did. I still played music in the summers and on the weekends, but rock and roll dreams were on the back burner for the time being. Sports paid for my education, so that was the drill. Sports, school, sports, school.  To be honest, sometimes it felt like 100 years to me. 

Every person has a few “crucible” moments in their life that they keep going back to in their mind. I gave you all this back story so I could properly set up one of mine.
So here goes: 

Me and a bunch of my football friends were in an early fall semester Economics class of our freshman year. We were a sorry sight, sitting in the back, bruised and tired from camp and daily practices. We were all working class kids whose parents probably couldn’t have afforded the meal plan at a school like this, let alone tuition. But somehow we were there. 

The subject of the day was “Social Darwinism”. Basically, “economic survival of the fittest.” The poor are poor because they are supposed to be poor. They didn’t apply themselves so don’t help them. The rich are rich because they are further up the economic evolutionary scale. My friends and I sat there thinking, “what a crock of shit.” The professor wasn't agreeing with the concept or disagreeing. He was just explaining the philosophy.

But up in the front of the class a young girl raised her hand. She said,  ”You know, that is really true. If these poor people would just apply themselves they wouldn’t be in the condition they are in.” 

Now, to say that to a bunch of working class kids who get pummeled every day to pay for their schooling, that’s something. That the only reason their other friends were left behind was because they are lazy? That the reason you were at a great school and they were not was because of economic natural selection? No Susie Sorority with the Hilton Head tan, that is not the case. And furthermore, do you have any idea how lucky you are? 

My one buddy leaned over to me and said, “That is why I hate this place.” 

 It was official, I was a card carrying angry young man. There were many other instances. It took me decades to really put it all in perspective. 

But eventually, I did get it together. When I did make peace with the situation, what did I conclude? I concluded that your circumstances are a gift. They are an opportunity for you to learn something. They are a part of you. Failure and struggle are a helluva lot better teachers than success and contentment. Nothing is ever easy. If you want something, go get it. Period. If along the way it’s not what you want anymore, stop and make changes. To use the old Thomas Edison philosophy, you now know something else that doesn’t work for you.  Go after something new with the same passion. 

For me, I started my music career as an engineer. Then I got pushed out of that. Then I got in a band and we got a record deal. Then we lost that. Then we got another one. Then we lost that too. Then we started a recording studio. That went well for a while, then I downsized that business when times got tough. Then I started back up again in a new location. Then I became a singer (in my mid 30’s) and started performing solo. Along the way I’ve formed a few bands and produced hundreds of recordings. I’ve gotten screwed more times than I remember. There have been many, many situations I thought were going to be a big break and they fizzled into nothing at all. It continues to this day. 

That’s a lot of hassle just to live a life of a middle class vocational musician right? 

You can call that character or mental toughness or whatever you want. Or just plain stupidity.  I don’t know but I can say that my life has always been happier fighting for an impossible dream instead of accepting a practical one. And sitting around angry doesn’t get you anywhere. 

Circumstances are a gift, they really are. What you do with them is who you become.   No one ever erected a statue of a guy who learned to live with his disappointments. The guy who had everything handed to him doesn't get alot of monuments dedicated to him either.

When our band was making our second major label album, we were starting to hear rumblings that our label was being sold. We were in the studio one day and I said to our producer Joe, “Wouldn’t it suck if we did all this work and this record never came out?” (p.s. It didn’t….not til much later and on a different label) 

He barely looked up from the console. 

“I have a closet full of them,” he said and kept working. 

Now I have a closet full of my own recordings like that. And my daughter just entered music school. The music business is one of the shittiest businesses on the planet. Am I going to tell her not to do it? Hell no. Passion, balls, and drive make life happen. Not an easy path with favorable conditions. 

If you want something, it can be done. The right why can always find a how. 

As I look out there at what’s going on in the social and political landscape right now, I always think of that classroom. The “haves” in the front and the “have nots who are trying to be haves” in the back. And I think that it’s not your circumstances that matter, it’s what you do with them. If you are in the back do you spend your life sitting still…. angry because that’s where you are?  Blaming someone else and making sure everyone knows whose fault it is? Or do you get out there and fight for something better? If you are in the front, do you look down on the people behind you? Or do you realize all your good fortune, reach back, and pull the others up? 

This is the true test of adulthood, no matter what your vocation. No matter where you are in that classroom. 

I like to think I made it up to the middle. Far enough to understand both sides at least a little. I’m still pissed off, but hopeful. 

And I’m thankful for the journey so far. 

Best wishes on yours, my friends…..

1 comment

  • Rob Wagman

    Rob Wagman Hazle Township

    I can relate to your feelings as a musician who toured the U.S. in the late 70's. I still sit in with bands and musicians in the area for the love of playing, After 2 years on the road booking through Associated Booking Corp in NYC, we had a lot of false promises and then we were out of work and stuck on the East coast. we were based out of Ca. I have my memories, photos and recordings. The band split up and went our own ways. I was bummed but am grateful to have that opportunity. The music industry in this area barely exists. I've sat in with all the better bands but now I feel like I am not in the "click" in Scranton. I don't like showing up with my guitar expecting to play without asking or knowing that I can play before I go. I always have fun playing. This area's musicians and clubs have a different mentality then what I was used to while living in N.Y. & Ca. Times have changed so much, to many ego's, control freaks and drama for me to play at the dives with a few assholes that show no respect, no compliments. I will never understand this attitude. I will be leaving this area asap to find a great place to live where I can be content with the music scene. Losing recording contracts sucks but is rampant. I consider myself a Professional, I jammed with Elvin Bishop, Tower of Power, Santana and many more that came to hear my Band "Home Cookin' in Ca. Clubs. Things will never be that way again for me. Not in this area. Thanks for hearing me vent my issues. I came to PA. for a job with a Defense Co. only to find out after buying my home and relocating my family that the company was under Federal investigation, they falsified test data on misile launchers. This was all in the past! The future is now!

    I can relate to your feelings as a musician who toured the U.S. in the late 70's. I still sit in with bands and musicians in the area for the love of playing, After 2 years on the road booking through Associated Booking Corp in NYC, we had a lot of false promises and then we were out of work and stuck on the East coast. we were based out of Ca. I have my memories, photos and recordings. The band split up and went our own ways. I was bummed but am grateful to have that opportunity. The music industry in this area barely exists. I've sat in with all the better bands but now I feel like I am not in the "click" in Scranton. I don't like showing up with my guitar expecting to play without asking or knowing that I can play before I go. I always have fun playing. This area's musicians and clubs have a different mentality then what I was used to while living in N.Y. & Ca. Times have changed so much, to many ego's, control freaks and drama for me to play at the dives with a few assholes that show no respect, no compliments. I will never understand this attitude. I will be leaving this area asap to find a great place to live where I can be content with the music scene. Losing recording contracts sucks but is rampant. I consider myself a Professional, I jammed with Elvin Bishop, Tower of Power, Santana and many more that came to hear my Band "Home Cookin' in Ca. Clubs. Things will never be that way again for me. Not in this area. Thanks for hearing me vent my issues. I came to PA. for a job with a Defense Co. only to find out after buying my home and relocating my family that the company was under Federal investigation, they falsified test data on misile launchers. This was all in the past! The future is now!

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